The Court Kim: Court's Journey to Self-Identity

To know her, is it love her, the ever-so radiant, Court Kim, has captivated Atlanta with charm and compassion. Considered a influencer, media personality, model, writer, and mentor to many, The Court Kim, is an extension of everything that Court embodies. Establishing an authentic brand with roots in kindness, inclusiveness, and support has birthed Court Kim Media, ‘The Court Kim’, and Court, the professional curve model. Follow closely as Court, aka The Court Kim discusses personal memories of her childhood, building @TheCourtKim as a brand, and what she learned by giving herself room to fail.

 

1. So, what’s the difference between Court and 'The Court Kim' ?

Um how did I get into my alter ego? I made Court Kim to somewhat protect the image I have that my family see, that my friends see, stuff like that. Similar to what Beyoncé did with her Sasha Fierce personality. I kind of made that for myself to because I am really shy when I am not on my platform or anything like that. If you know me in person, you would say, “oh she’s a bit more laid back and a little bit more reserved.” Yes, I am still personable and try to talk to people. I am still very kind, but just like everyone else I have my boundaries and sh*t. So that’s where Court comes into play. But Court Kim came from actually changing my twitter name from Asap Court to the Court Kim because I had to remove myself/ or separate myself from the Asap Mob, because a lot of people started asking me about A&R business stuff like that. Court Kim came out, and that’s just the short version of my name, because I am still the same bitch, but I am letting people know what I want them to know. So, a lot of people call me Kim right now and I am okay with that.

2. Tell me about your childhood.

Yes. It’s really weird to look at my childhood now. Probably because, you know, I went to college and I think I assimilated out of that mindset (white community). So, it’s really interesting to reflect on my childhood because I think when I was there I had no idea who I was. And I don’t think I was in a progressive phase to figure that out. Umm Roswell is predominately white. And my family moved in as one of the more successful families in town. And with that becomes adversity. I experienced that a lot growing up as a child. My group of friends were comprised of maybe four or five black girls and we stayed in a knit group. And we were always raised in that area so we kind of understood the struggle that we had in common. But the other black people I knew were coming from end to end like Southside. So, it was an interesting interaction when they come and met you. And you’re from Roswell. They already don’t like this area, then they see you and they’re like who’s team are you on?  Yes, I was like one of the well-known black girls in my school. But, I felt really lonely in this position and I did not know who I was still. And that’s from both sides Because the white kids didn’t know how to take me, and the blacks didn’t know how to take me. It was just a long period of me trying to figure myself out, in the midst of all of this adversity. And that’s the thing though. I am thankful for my upbringing. I just feel like I was always on the chopping block for a lot of things.

 

2. Court Kim discusses the aftermath of a bad situation and how there needs to be more conversations about mental health in the black community.

It takes vulnerability to talk to someone, this person is seeing my most authentic self and they’re seeing all my demons that I’ve acquired throughout these years, and it’s scary. But it’s like but why am I so afraid to tell my story?  When we open up and admit we have a problem then our community is like yeah maybe there is a problem with you. But they don’t realize like okay this is because of generational issues. We keep putting mental health in the back burner. And then we are expected to move forward. That’s unrealistic. And your kind of just running on “e” for like ever. Until one day that shit blows up.

 

3. How do you feel like your experience has shaped how you navigate your business, your business acumen, and your professional career?

I am really patient with people. And sometimes I might be a little more patient than most because I am very aware of the intersectionality that lies within life in general for me with my business-like Court Kim avenue and Court Kim media. My staff members are so brilliant and young. I have a mother figure to myself now. I love them because not only am I just protecting myself I am also protecting my kid. So, I think of them in that accord and I don’t like to make them feel about things that they can’t control. But what my teammates and everyone knows is that I don’t have patience for bullshit. Like I don’t have any patience for homophobia, transphobia, islamophobia, misogyny in general. Like if that’s in your realm, then good for you but that negativity is not coming over here and mess up what we have going on.  And if it’s brought to my attention I have to cut that shit out immediately. And that’s where it comes into my business. I am very protective to anyone I love, and I will do just about anything to at least make sure my foundation is not fucked.

 

4. Court Kim discusses how her past experiences lead her to her current mindset and how failure is knowledge for a second chance.

I’ve worked really hard to get here. I’ve gone through hell I think several times and gracefully enough I’ve been able to come back, and I have these second chances and it’s like every day,  is a new chance for me to get this right. Which is so great. And I am finally understanding the concept of failure. Now and I’ m not like ohh I failed it’s over. Now I am like okay, I failed, what do I learn for this and how am I going to apply this to my business and how am I going to get better. and I think that’s also what I learned from school. I don’t hold animosity to any of my classmates or my school because I don’t think they knew any better either. But then again, were adults now. And what I’ve noticed from observing the people I went to school with now, is like they’re like the same thing. They’re very stagnant with what they’re doing now. So, it’s like, okay I don’t have to live subjectively in that mindset anymore. It’s that local mentality. It’s not about where you’re from its about what you learn and how are you going to break from that mindset? Because there’s a lot of close- mindedness that come from Roswell. You know, there’s no way to sugar coat that. But I always knew that about myself that my mind was bigger, and it broke the barriers beyond the means of my environmental living space.

 

5. Through all the networks of employee, social, business relationships. How this mindset affects staffs and employee communications with people who spend so much time with us? 

I feel like if we utilize empathy in the workplace. There would be more means of a positive change and a positive journey for all and I don’t think a lot of people do that. That’s the one thing I hope for people all the time. To be able to look at someone and be like I know that we don’t experience similar things. But understand what you’re going through for you personally, I respect that. There’s the difference. You don’t have to agree with me, but you can acknowledge what the fcuk is going on. And that’s what I try to do. It may never happen to me but I need to understand what you’re going through. I am a teacher to a lot of people, but I will never stop being a student. I know a lot and I am very big on my intellect, but I do not know everything. And I am so happy that I don’t. because if I knew everything it would be like, okay I am done, my purpose is complete. But it’s actually not.

 

6. Court Kim shares how her emotional vulnerability allowed her to tap into her creative side more, which lead to her podcast.

I was broken up with that weekend and I was going through a major family tragedy at the same time. I was so vulnerable, and I didn’t know what to do with all of those feelings at the same time. I was going through two different versions of heart breaks at once. I was at the bar and I was going to see Oso – a singer. And this guy I was seeing was there with a girl. And I figured it was his friend. He made out with the girl right in front of my face on the dance floor. And i’ve never been so blatantly tried like that. It was insane because even in that moment that was the first time I met one of my close friends. She was there for me in that moment. Jasmine, you’re brilliant you’re so sweet and you saved me at a crucial time so thank you!

But here’s the gag though the girl was actually a fan of me and my work. She came up to me after the scene and was like "Hi, are you court Kim?", and she reached out for a hug and told me she was a big fan of me and my work. The universe settles itself.

 

7. How do you feel like those moments have shifted molded your creativity and development as an artist?

I think the vulnerability I’ve experienced has made my means of creative expression more honest and it makes me more proud of things I put out there. You have to get to a very vulnerable and emotional state with yourself to pull out that creativity and authenticity. You have to really know yourself so well and connect with yourself. You have to give yourself a lot of attention to be able to get there.

 Photographed by Selasi Tawia (IG: @selasixii).

Photographed by Selasi Tawia (IG: @selasixii).

Court embraces Court Kim

That’s a beautiful to bring out. I feel as beautiful black women we are not allowed to have our vulnerable moments or were deemed as crazy, angry. We have a lot to be mad about. And that’s what the reclaiming of my time is about. We’ve gone through all these different things in our lives and people are trying to in-validate our stories and experiences. And it got to the point in my life where it was like I am not doing that to myself anymore. My story as a black woman means the world to me. I don’t separate between intersectionalities at all like this is all one package. You get this all of me.

 

8. Tell us about the trials and errors you’ve faced in the beginning of your creative career in Atlanta and the defining moments of discovering yourself.

I think that was the thing I always had trouble at the beginning of my creative experience was here in Atlanta. I didn’t know who I was, but I knew what direction I wanted to go into. I think that why some of the things I wanted to do fell through. I wasn’t ready. Spiritually, mentally. The drive and mission has always been there but there was always this higher power saying, you’re not there yet. And it’s okay. And you’re upset like why didn’t this opportunity pull through why. Didn’t this happen but then you realize all the failures means something. I watched one of Will Smith’s Instagram videos on failing often to grow. That changed my perspective on things. Like even in Court Kim Media we were in pre-production. But some things went off and that’s why we don’t have episodes out at the moment. Will smith talked about his creative journey and how he is so thankful for his failure because it shows him what he needs to do and how to be successful.  I was like omg I’ve been thinking about everything wrong. At first, I though failure is defeat. It doesn’t mean that anymore. And I needed to hear that. It’s a thing I’m learning to deal with myself. If I fail I don’t internalize it anymore. Cause I used to do that a lot and be my worst critics and I feel like women are they’re worst critics. And we have a lot to live for and that’s why I am so excited. About my media company because I have so many chance to fail with it but it’s still my baby and I am going to rock with it until my wheels fall off.

 

9. Describe the importance of self-evaluation and the part it plays in improving, and finding balance in your life?

Adversity caused me to self -reflect and re – evaluate. As people sometimes, we have to stop and be like okay this isn’t working and figure what is going wrong. Self-realization is real. Like I can beat myself up to an extent, but I am not going to beat myself into the ground. So that’s the difference there.

10. Court, you have amassed quite a following across both, Twitter and Instagram. How does social media, and online presence play a part in your career? Or does it?

People genuinely get worried if I don’t post. That’s how big my following has gotten.  If I am not around they’re like are you okay. Sometimes I need my break from social media. I am so happy that was my launching pad. But now it’s like I don’t need that right now for what I am trying to do here with the talk show. Cause making a talk show I feel like you have to have that perfect formula and you have to try a lot of different things to see what meshes well with you. And social media won’t let me do that because it needs constant content. They want to pull at you.

I don’t create that way. That was my problem with them at the beginning. Like am I giving the right kind of content and I had to remember that my vision was very unique, and I had to honor them and ignore what everyone else is saying. I had the teaser and a lot of people were anxious and that means I did my job. And that’s what I wanted to do. I kind of wanted to keep people guessing and that’s the direction of where we are going to take Court Kim Ave. It will be centered around who is Court Kim. It will be a proper introduction of me to the world. And I want them to have the most bomb ass authentic introduction that I can give them. Because it’s going to be brilliant and it’s going to be exquisite and visionary because that’s the kind of girl I am. That’s who Oprah is, Ellen, Monique, Chelsea Handler, I am trying to be one of the best. I want to be in their club and I am failing and trying things until I know I feel comfortable. And that’s the best thing ever. I feel very confident for the first time in a while.

11. Being in entertainment and being on a social media platform and television, you’re essentially a personality to the world and even though your fans get attached to you, how do balance the dynamic between your life (emotional, spiritual, personal) and being in the limelight all the time? How do you balance that for yourself?

I have make space for who I am and what kind of area I am in. I know a lot of people have attachments to Court Kim. As they should I kind of made it that way on purpose. But there’s a level of where that separates and where I lie within all of that. When I go to networking events, and concerts people will recognize Court, but other times ill run into my fans. I wear different hats for different people. If a fan is talking to me I want them to have my undivided attention because they are the people I feel know me the most. And they appreciate my mind. So, if they want to talk to me I’m giving that agency to do so. But then I am a person as well. There’s moments where I will personally reserve myself. I don’t go out that much for that reason. If I am going out now it’s for a close friend I want to support or a networking event. I have to pick and choose where to go. I have to give myself Court time. And I like those times because I am able to really be my authentic self and quiet and loving to my friends, family, and the guy I am dating now.

These are all of the things I want now and last year I did not feel like I could have all these things. But now it’s like I can have my relationship, I can have friend time, and family time. But then I also have my work time which revolves around company, my staff members. So, I am always available to everyone. Its stressful.

 

12. What are the effects of being the limelight and navigating through having a lot of supporters?

It’s not for everyone I am sure. It is a big thing being the face of your brand. And if I knew a little bit more of that at the jump, maybe I would have been more particular about what my initial approach of attack would be. But I’m here now in this moment. so, I live, and I learn, but I am taking those lessons and I am making them for myself. I am fine with being the face.

 

13. Some people are not personable off social media, how does Court Kim differ from the rest and maintain your stance in reality?

It was important for me to make my personalities not too far off. I am everything who Court Kim is. Court is just a few steps back. Like you can’t get all of me. All the time and that’s just how it is.

Court Kim’s warm and authentic personality captivates fans on and off the screen.

It’s because I am a people person and I love people authentically and when I meet people, I want them to have an authentic experience with them. I want you to come up to me and I am going to greet you with open arms because that’s the type of girl I am and that’s how I want people to be with me. I want to get to know you.

I remember when I first got to Atlanta and meeting certain people I’ve always wanted to just get to know. But they would be so closed off. And different from what the project out and I knew that I couldn’t do that with myself because I think that’s kind of where you find the holes as well. I am a warm and engaging person, so I want my fans to come and say I love your work, and ill be like hey what’s up! and that’s me, I want that energy in everything I do. I want that to be the thing when I do interviews with people, and any kind of realm. I don’t care who you are. You can be the janitor, you can be the CEO, I am still going to greet you just the same because there’s an importance in everybody. And there is importance with me not having some kind of poised nature and how you cater to your fans and sometimes people don’t acknowledge your fan base like that. But they are my saving grace. They are.